3 Tips To Boost Your Self Esteem

"To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives." ~ Denis Waitley

Possibly the most important part of the role that your self-concept has in determining your performance and behavior, is the impact of your self-esteem in determining everything that happens to you. Most psychologists agree that self-esteem is the critical determining factor of a healthy personality.

The best definition of self-esteem is, “how much you like yourself.” When you like and respect yourself, you always perform and behave better than if you did not. The more you like yourself, the more confidence you have. The more you like yourself, the more efficient and effective you are in each area of your life.

Self-esteem is the key to peak performance. Your self-esteem is so important to your emotional health that almost everything you do is aimed at either increasing your feelings of self-esteem and personal value, or protecting it from being decreased by other people or circumstances. Self-esteem, the feeling of liking and respecting yourself, is the key principle of success and happiness.

It is vital for you to feel fully alive. If low self-esteem has you feeling uninspired, there are brighter days ahead. You have the power to renew your ego within a matter of days. You may need to put in a little bit of work to overcome the obstacles in the way of elevating your rising self-esteem, but your efforts will certainly be worth it. I'm sure all of us have had situations where we may have had something that didn't go as planned or failed at something we attempted to achieve.

During those times, we may feel defeated and temporarily lose confidence in our ability. This time where our self worth is deflated will be a time when we may become less involved with our team or business or become less decisive. So, the key is to make sure that these periods do NOT last very long and we do whatever is needed to get back on the right track.

These tips will help you develop a healthy ego boost:

1. Consider your needs.. Do what makes you happy without allowing what others may think about you or your decisions to deter you. Once you stop worrying about keeping up with appearances, your mind and soul will be free.

• Living without fear of judgment will allow you to open doors that were once only a dream. Often, you'll even find that your financial situation will improve because you aren't making expensive purchases to keep up appearances.

• Sometimes, family can be your biggest judgment worry. If this is your situation, learn to set boundaries and allow the negativity to roll off. Occasionally, it may be helpful to listen to the advice of family members, but when that advice turns to criticism or begins to run your life, remember to put yourself first.

2. Determine Your Values.. .. Living your life consistent with your deepest values is essential for you to enjoy high self-esteem

• People who are clear about what they believe in and value, and who refuse to compromise their values like and respect themselves far more than people who are unclear about what is really important to them.

• The very act of living your life consistent with your values, and using your time effectively and well, improves your self-image, builds your self-esteem and self-confidence, and increases your self-respect.

3. Surround yourself with positivity.. Surround yourself with people who care and appreciate you. If your friends, family and co-workers (business partners) are constantly giving you unwarranted criticism, this can undoubtedly lead to low self-esteem. Have a talk with the people in your life about how negatively their critical comments affect you; if they truly care for you, they'll put a stop to it immediately. Once you surround yourself with positive thoughts and think in terms of success, it will be time for you to go back to the tasks that have become obstacles. You are what you think about most of the time, so fill your mind with positive thoughts

• Some people are simply hardwired to dish out negativity. If your circle includes people like this, you may have to distance yourself a bit from the negative influences in your life. Seek out positive, enthusiastic people with a positive outlook on life. You want to surround yourself with people like that in order to succeed.  You can also read motivational books or listen to motivational tapes or watch motivational videos.

• Of course, your loved ones aren't required to praise you in order to be on your priority list, but your efforts to give yourself a healthy ego boost will fall short if you're constantly being torn down by the negativity of others.

• Rediscover an old hobby or find a new one. By involving yourself with something you enjoy, you're creating your own positivity. You'll feel better about yourself as you increase your happiness.

Developing a healthy ego may seem like a simple concept, but many people struggle with insecurity and self-doubt. However, if you're able to effectively implement the tips above, you'll notice your self-esteem rise quickly. Remember, you're worth the effort and your contribution is important to the world.