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Judy Helm Wright, of Missoula, Montana is a wise woman with a global message. As an author of over 20 books on Amazon, she writes about Responsibility, Respect & Resiliency.

Judy is a popular motivational speaker and has worked all over the world with families and groups just like yours.

You will find her warm, witty and wise as she guides and mentors others to be their best self.
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Teach Kids To Work At Home - Build Self Esteem

Jul 8th 2010 at 9:54 AM

Are you a frustrated parent who sometimes finds it is easier to take the garbage out yourself than to keep nagging your son? Do you wonder what kind of employee he will become since he doesn't always follow through at home? Is it worth the effort on your part to insist that he do his share? The answer is a resounding Yes!

The lessons of life and self that we want our children to learn in our homes are not only the practical ones, such as making a bed, sewing on a button or cooking a meal. They include intangible benefits as well; it is equally important for children to learn the art of cooperation, the satisfaction of finishing a job, the ease in following a schedule and the value of sticking with a task. Children need to learn those lessons in order to cope successfully with the problems and challenges they will face in life.

The seeds of good judgment, thoughtful consideration for others and self-reliance in all areas of dial family life are most easily planted during a child's pre-school years, but it is never too late. These values can be reinforced until the child leaves home. It is the responsibility of the parents to teach our children to be contributing citizens. Schools, churches, Girl Scouts, YMCA and other youth organizations only supplement the lessons children receive at home.

A positive identity hinges on positive life experiences. If positive experiences take place in a safe and supportive home, then so much the better. The more success a child experiences, the better he feels about himself and his place in the world, and the more courage he has to try new and different things. When we "en"courage our children to contribute to the good of the family, we give them the gift of courage to make mistakes and to take risks. We focus on their assets and strengths in order to build their feelings of self-worth.

As we teach our children to work, the whole family wins. Children feel greater self-esteem, independence and a sense of belonging. Parents feel relieved of some of the work load, and they feel more confident about their child and his ability to function in the real world. Everybody feels more a part of the team, and the garbage gets taken out!

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(c) Judy H. Wright Author, Speaker, Life Educator ph:406-549-9813

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Aug 31st 2010 at 10:23 PM by GTBulmer
Hello, Judy: It is definitely challenging for many parents to coach their children in a positive, effective way and get them to do things around the house. However, as you have pointed out, it is well worth the effort to stay the course and persevere.

Our oldest daughter went through a rebellious stage in her mid to late teens ... and we wondered how we were going to survive! But survive we did and when she reached her twenties, something changed and she turned into a very responsible and caring young adult. A few years later, she became a parent and we are so proud of her sense of family and social responsibility. Moral of the story: never give up; there is always hope. :-)
Jul 26th 2010 at 4:51 PM by ryamcarthur
I am a firm believer that learning how to be respectful, listen and apply the things taught to become a better member of the community is highly important. For this reason I seem to get a better relationship with my oldest son by participating in competitive sports. It seems as he gets to interact with not only me but his other coaches he learns different ways to communicate and so do I in achieving better communication styles with him!

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