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| Judy Helm Wright, of Missoula, Montana has become “The Bully Advocate.” As an author, keynote speaker and family educator, she has seen the damage done when bullying occurs.
Her blog http://www.cyberbullyinghelp.com is filled with information and a free report for parents. The goal of the blog is to: 1. Empower the bully to gain empathy and gain new ways of communication 2. Empower the victim or target to gain assertiveness skills and how to set boundaries. 3. Empower the bystander or witness to speak up or find help. 4. Empower the group, school, family or community to adopt a no-bully, respect for all policy. |
Judy Helm Wright | judyhwright
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- Stress and Tears- What is Causing Tension?
That may have made the adult feel better temporarily and stopped the child's behavior for that minute. Anger is a basic human emotion. It is necessary to help us make changes in our lives. Anger is only one letter away from danger. It is dangerous to use emotions to force others into submission or to vent rage on people or things.
Added: Jan 22nd 2011 at 11:55 AM · 342 views · 2 comments · 38 likes · read the article - Step Dad-Not Stepped On Dad
As I travel about the country talking to parents and day care providers questions come up often on how to gain respect and unity from a blended family. Step-dads are especially concerned because they are not sure what their new role in the life of step-children should be. Many men are also concerned about how to address the roles of "hers, mine and ours." Family Meetings Build Cooperation
Added: Jan 19th 2011 at 6:06 PM · 224 views · 0 comments · 23 likes · read the article - Some Will Like You-Some Will Hate You
We all want people to love and approve of us. We hunger to be connected to friends and family. Many people become “people pleasers” trying to be accepted by others in their lives. As a parent educator and family coach I have seen children who want approval so much that they will comply with the wishes and demands of others no matter what the cost to themselves. They want so much to please parents, teachers and friends that they give away all their power
Added: Jan 17th 2011 at 4:29 PM · 272 views · 2 comments · 27 likes · read the article - Rules of Respect-Boundaries of Behavior
Consistent boundaries within the family are pretty predictable; Consistency in discipline is the number one factor in successful families: It is important that love, respect, cooperation and expectations are unconditional and not dependent on circumstances or behavior. Read this article for more information and to learn how to build respect in your family.
Added: Dec 2nd 2010 at 9:39 AM · 396 views · 7 comments · 33 likes · read the article - Friend For A Season, Reason or Lifetime?
Strengthen Relationships with Nurturing Friends Everyone needs friends. Friendship offers a way to connect, grow and develop in new and exciting ways. The best friendships are nurturing and comfortable for both parties. If you want to know if your friendships are toxic, read this article.
Added: Nov 30th 2010 at 2:53 PM · 682 views · 6 comments · 52 likes · read the article - Attitude of Cooperation
I always encourage parents to look down the road fifteen years to the adult, instead of right now at the child who is balking at unloading the dishwasher. Yes, it would be easier on you just to put the dishes away yourself, but what does your child learn when you do his chores for him? Almost all learning is accomplished through trial and error, or the natural or logical consequence of actions.
Added: Nov 12th 2010 at 1:59 PM · 313 views · 7 comments · 30 likes · read the article - Holiday Time is Family Story Telling Time
As you gather for holidays this year, be sure to listen to the family stories and share your own life experiences. While you are traveling, take time to share with the children the life lessons you have learned from other family members. Our family has always believed on spending money on experiences and memories not things. How about your family, what stories do you laugh about when you get together?
Added: Nov 11th 2010 at 5:22 PM · 410 views · 5 comments · 40 likes · read the article - Dangers of Cyberbullying To The Bully and The Bullied
Out of a fear of losing access to technology many kids and teens do not inform parents and caregivers, teachers or friends they are experiencing problems with cyberbullies. Although similar to normal bullying in many ways cyberbullying involves the use of cell phones or other technology as a means to harass others.
Added: Oct 7th 2010 at 8:23 AM · 374 views · 5 comments · 29 likes · read the article - Friendship on the Playground - Learn Social Skills
Friendship and social skills on the playground are usually learned in a one on one conversation with teacher or parent. The life lesson we want to impart is that it is not others responsibility to like us, it is our responsibility to be the kind of person and friend that others will be drawn toward and want to befriend.
Added: Sep 27th 2010 at 2:59 PM · 1061 views · 3 comments · 73 likes · read the article - Is There A Book In You - Write It Today
You don't have to write a 200 hundred page book to be considered an author. How about starting out with an article of 300-750 words on a subject you know about for this magazine? You may want to consider a booklet (6 -50 pages), a special report (3-25 pages) a workbook (7-30 pages), or a book ( 32, 64, 96 or 128 pages).
Added: Sep 24th 2010 at 6:08 PM · 538 views · 15 comments · 45 likes · read the article - Reuse, Recycle and Use It Up - Too Much Stuff
According to the United Nations Environmental Program, each person in the Unites States generates nearly a trash heap weighing over a ton every single year. it is almost impossible to comprehend that much "stuff" going to waste. Recycle, Reuse and Use It Up Tips
Added: Sep 24th 2010 at 5:33 PM · 327 views · 0 comments · 28 likes · read the article - Dangers of Cyberbullying – Online Threats
Out of a fear of losing access to technology many kids and teens do not inform parents and caregivers, teachers or friends they are experiencing problems with cyberbullies. Although similar to normal bullying in many ways cyberbullying involves the use of cell phones or other technology as a means to harass others. Cyberbullies use the internet and text messages to embarrass or intimidate another person. Messages and posts can range from threats of physical harm to disclosing personal information on their victim. The information cyberbullies put out information intended to defame or embarrass their victims.
Added: Sep 10th 2010 at 11:28 AM · 1298 views · 10 comments · 88 likes · read the article - Your Top 4 Secret Fears and Anxieties About Dating-Overcoming Anxiety
Negative Thoughts and Erroneous Beliefs Many times the mind chatter and distorted thoughts running over and over in our brain is based on what might happen. We worry so much about what has happened in the past or what will happen in the future, that we completely miss the present moment. In a perfect world, we would all have been born and raised by awesome parents who gave us unconditional love and acceptance. We would then grow up with high self esteem and feel good about who and what we are.
Added: Sep 1st 2010 at 10:04 AM · 306 views · 4 comments · 25 likes · read the article - Self-Image and Confidence - 5 tips To Help Become More Confident
It seems as those who have learned the tricks and tips of self confidence seem to be magnets for better treatment, more opportunities and deeper relationships. It is in our best interest to learn some of the ways that confident people think and act, so that we too may share the joy and good fortune.
Added: Sep 1st 2010 at 9:48 AM · 647 views · 7 comments · 45 likes · read the article - Overcome Self Doubt-Lack of Confidence, Courage and Can't Do it Attitude
Perky Personality, positive attitude, perpetually happy? Is that how others see me? Well, it is not true, by a long shot. When a friend commented that I seemed more pensive and less perky than usual, she was actually a little annoyed that I could be down in the dumps, concerned or even doubting my self. It is important that you and she know that no matter how confident you are, life has bumps and disappointments and down days. You have a right to a self-pity party occasionally.
Added: Sep 1st 2010 at 9:28 AM · 631 views · 3 comments · 49 likes · read the article - Step Families - You Are Not My Daddy
Parenting is hard enough in the first place and children love to test the limits of our patience and skills. Please remember that the children did not ask to be in this position and are understandably concerned and trying to work out the relationships in their own minds.
Added: Aug 26th 2010 at 3:05 PM · 344 views · 2 comments · 31 likes · read the article - 15 Ways to Help Kids Like Themselves
3. Define limits and rules clearly. A family council is an excellent place to discuss, explain and get a sense of ownership to the rules. Discuss what consequences will follow if the rules are not followed. Don't have a lot of rules, maybe four or five, but be consistent at following them.
Added: Aug 26th 2010 at 2:39 PM · 377 views · 4 comments · 39 likes · read the article - Benefits of Anger - Relieve Your Stress
Stress is a physical experience. All strong emotions such as anger, fear, excitement trigger powerful hormones which enables a threatened person to run faster, climb higher, shout louder, hit harder and do what must be done in order to survive a perceived attack. It is anger that is the catalyst of most great organizations that do good in the world. A mother's anger that her child has been killed by a drunk driver channels that anger into Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. It is the anger against injustice to schooling young girls in third world countries that motivates Greg Mortensen to write "Three Cups of Tea" and to build schools that will educate them.
Added: Aug 26th 2010 at 10:09 AM · 312 views · 3 comments · 34 likes · read the article - Adult vs. Childhood Trauma
Is It Trauma or Just Stressful Incident Adults who have experienced trauma as children are more likely to perceive events in their grown lives as traumatic rather than stressful. Adults who have had fairly trauma-free early lives tend to perceive negative events and experiences as more isolated and have a greater stress tolerance.
Added: Aug 26th 2010 at 10:04 AM · 344 views · 0 comments · 35 likes · read the article - Friendship and Social Skills on the Playground
To have a friend and to be a friend are basic needs of children and adults alike. We all want to belong. Young children who learn the skills of making friends from parents and teachers will also excel in emotional development. Those who learn to relate to the needs of others in socially acceptable ways are usually well liked and included in playground activities and school projects. Teach Empathy and Mutual Respect
Added: Aug 26th 2010 at 10:00 AM · 396 views · 0 comments · 36 likes · read the article - Reframing Past Emotional Hurts
Past Hurts Can Heal When we understand that what may have occurred in a vulnerable time in our belief forming years may no longer be relevant, if it ever was, it is easier to let the emotional wounding go. They may shape the adult we became. Empowerment can come from overcoming emotional wounding and recognizing that we no longer need to carry that burden of hurt from the past. We can choose to see these wounds through the lens of a victim or change the perception by choosing to look at them through a new and better frame.
Added: Aug 26th 2010 at 9:52 AM · 619 views · 3 comments · 38 likes · read the article - Definition of Bullying - An International Problem
We used to think bullying could begin at any age but, typically it begins to escalate around the third grade, peaking by about eighth grade and tapering off in high school. We are now finding bullying often starts earlier and lasts much longer. The combination of cyberspace and bullies can be a dangerous combination. The escalation of cyberbullying can range from mild teasing to death threats...
Added: Aug 24th 2010 at 7:10 AM · 295 views · 0 comments · 35 likes · read the article - Recognizing the Six Types of Aggressive Bullies--Are You a Victim?
Bullying is not strictly a behavior of the young and not all bullying involves fighting. Bullying, in all forms, is an attempt to steal power from someone else...
Added: Aug 17th 2010 at 9:15 AM · 402 views · 1 comments · 33 likes · read the article - Helping Children Through Stress
Why does a six-year-old become stressed when their parent loses a job? Why does an eight-year-old suddenly become queasy and ill when its time to go to Little League?
Added: Aug 17th 2010 at 8:54 AM · 280 views · 3 comments · 29 likes · read the article - Bullies in School, Neighborhood and Work Place
Bullying is About Power In a conflict, both sides have equal power to resolve the problem. Bullying is an intentional, one-sided use of power and mean spirit to control another. If you or a friend feels that you are the target or victim of either a person or group, then please do not feel ashamed or that you did anything to bring on that kind of trauma. Bullies are bullies, whether they are on school grounds, work places or in our neighborhoods. They are looking for victims. If you were not there, they would find someone else.
Added: Aug 16th 2010 at 12:08 PM · 406 views · 0 comments · 37 likes · read the article - My Child is Being Teased – Mama Mouse into Mother Lioness
It is so easy to have a knee jerk reaction when our children are being teased, taunted or bullied by others. Our minds immediately jump back to sixth grade when we too were teased or picked on. We remember how horrible we felt and we want to protect our son or daughter from going through the same pain. We want to expose the bully and teach him a lesson. And while we are at it, we are going to say the things we couldn’t say 25 years ago. We want to fix this problem and we want to make the world a safer place, or at least one little corner of the playground. Remember We Are Adults
Added: Aug 16th 2010 at 11:59 AM · 322 views · 0 comments · 31 likes · read the article - Empower Your Children Against Bullies
Teach your children to imagine themselves inside a protective bubble that bounces off the bullies words. This will give them some control in a situation where they may feel helpless. When choosing a victim or target, bullies typically target children or teens who have few or no friends. Make sure your children have chances to make friends away from where the bullying takes place. Claim your free e-course on social skills today at http://www.TheLeftOutChild.com
Added: Aug 16th 2010 at 11:50 AM · 418 views · 1 comments · 40 likes · read the article - Death In The Family - Handling Grief and Loss
As we look back at our life experiences, it is how the first encounter of death is handled, that sets a pattern for the rest of our lives. If all members of the family are allowed to express their feelings openly and get questions answered honestly, it can bring a closeness and healing. You will find hope and healing by reading this article. Thank you for joining our community of kind, thoughtful people who want respect for all.
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 11:29 AM · 584 views · 3 comments · 43 likes · read the article - Dali Lama To Visit Missoula, Montana
The decision was made to build a garden on this site featuring 1,000 cast concrete statues, which will be placed in a 500 foot round garden connected by eight spoke-like paths to a 25 foot statue of Yum Chenmo, or great mother, at it's center. This image has great meaning not only for those of this small community, but for visitors nationally and internationally who will come to find peace and solace in this garden of 1000 Buddhas. Even those of us who are not Buddhist appreciate the serenity and beauty of the garden.
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 11:23 AM · 500 views · 2 comments · 40 likes · read the article - Life Isn't Fair - Are You Lucky or Unlucky?
Bad Luck is described as unforeseen occurrence, happenstance and yet good luck is described as prosperity, wealth, windfall, success, advantage, profit and triumph, happiness and blessings. It is often from the luck that the opportunities for growth and development come to us. When we take the chance to grow through loss, grief and adversity, we will become stronger and more resilient. I know this is true, because I have experienced in my own life and the lives of countless friends and family. Read this article for new ideas about how bad things happen to good people and life isn't always fair.
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 11:13 AM · 400 views · 3 comments · 33 likes · read the article - Child Exploitation - "Sexting" Online
Ask Them How They Feel and What They Think Parents and caring adults will recognize that death and illness has an impact on the whole family. By honoring the thoughts, fears and anxiety of the children by truly listening to them is an important way to include them in the process.
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 11:04 AM · 478 views · 0 comments · 42 likes · read the article - Encouraging Words for Teens, Adolescents and Young People
When we focus on the progress of life skills, the teenager will want to become a more responsible young adult. Decide in a family council what needs to be done, when it will be done, and how it will be done and the natural consequences of not doing it. By taking the emphasis off the personality of the teen and put on the goal of encouraging positive character traits that will be transferable to other areas of life, we are more likely to attain the desired result. Read this article for more tips and techniques you can use today.
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 10:51 AM · 2227 views · 0 comments · 67 likes · read the article - Could My Child Sexually Abuse Others - Juvenile Sex Offenders
It is not the strangers who manipulate and prey on their sexual victims, it is someone who is usually known and respected by the family. Sexual abuse is often first committed by juvenile family members who are loved and trusted. As hormones begin to surge and if they have not been taught how to handle thoughts and urges, they may experiment on younger siblings or cousins.. Read this article to learn more about Adolescent Sexual Offenders
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 10:44 AM · 755 views · 0 comments · 56 likes · read the article - Discipline By Dad - Children Need Strong Male Role Models
If one parent is permissive and the other is punitive or strict, the combined methods constitute a mixed approach. to kids this is like living in a country where two different governments are operating simultaneously. Kids figure out quickly that they rules are different between two parents and they learn to play one against the other. This mixed or inconsistent approach brings out the most extreme reactions in parents and children. So as a dad, make a decision that your method of parenting will be consistent and respectful. Once your child knows what your expectations are, he or she will more easily rise to meet those guidelines and trust you.
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 10:36 AM · 1236 views · 0 comments · 67 likes · read the article - Helping Children Cope With Death of a Pet or Loved One
Ask Them How They Feel and What They Think Parents and caring adults will recognize that death and illness has an impact on the whole family. By honoring the thoughts, fears and anxiety of the children by truly listening to them is an important way to include them in the process.
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 10:26 AM · 458 views · 0 comments · 40 likes · read the article - Are You Afraid and Frustrated?
Any time we take action and move toward a goal, we set a process in place that will overcome negative thoughts and experiences. The Universe rewards those who know what they want and take immediate action. Sometimes, the most courageous thing we can do is to say; "This is a negative place in my life and I want to change my direction and not remain stuck here." Making a decision to overcome fear or to just walk through the doubt is frequently the catapult to success in many areas of life
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 10:20 AM · 327 views · 0 comments · 36 likes · read the article - Idigo Child - Born to Lead, Hard To Manage
There are many other books out there that will give you insight into the personality of an Indigo Child. Your most important source of inspiration on dealing with your child is your heart and intuition. No one knows and loves your child as you do. Discuss and plan with the child systems to make life easier for both of you. I can usually tell because their eyes will look at you as if they can see into your soul. They are the ones who will help all of humanity to move in a direction. A leader who will lead in their own way. Our job is to keep these Indigo Children safe and recognize what they have to teach us. They are born to lead, so let's guide and accompany them on their journey, but let them lead the way. I am sure you probably have a child or two who come to mind when I talk about an Indigo Child.
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 10:03 AM · 422 views · 4 comments · 41 likes · read the article - Difficult Child or Child Having Difficult Day?
There are many labels that adults put on children who do not immediately obey instructions. some are called ADD, ADDHD, Extreme kids, Indigo Child, Star Children and I have even heard them revered to as spoiled brats. The problem with labels, titles and roles is that children soon begin to be that which they are called. If they are seen as difficult, they will continue to be difficult. Encouragement Toward Positive Goals
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 9:58 AM · 335 views · 0 comments · 33 likes · read the article - Teach Kids To Work At Home - Build Self Esteem
Discipline (teaching to self-govern) is most effective when it assists the child in assuming personal responsibility and to learn accountability for actions. Read on to find out easy ways to mentor and lead your children into contributing adults. Natural consequences are a natural way we all learn. Helping at home builds confidence and competence.
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 9:54 AM · 361 views · 2 comments · 35 likes · read the article - Teaching Children With Natural Consequences
Discipline (teaching to self-govern) is most effective when it assists the child in assuming personal responsibility and to learn accountability for actions. Read on to find out easy ways to mentor and lead your children into contributing adults. Natural consequences are a natural way we all learn.
Added: Jul 8th 2010 at 9:46 AM · 972 views · 1 comments · 57 likes · read the article