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Being A Blessing Pays Off
Created on June 24th, 2011

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Melissa Van Eyk
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location Fort Erie, ON Canada
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Jun 24th 2011 at 8:45 AM
I just wanted to share this with you in the off chance you find yourself in this situation.

I have recently moved and the building, which contains 3 apartments, were all vacant (except ours). A few months later the neighbours moved in. A family of 4. So me being me, I brought over a "welcome" gift and had a chat. She mentioned that she had no hot water. She has 2 small kids....and i felt bad.

Anyways, I had to call my landlord about some siliconing that needed to be done around the house, and while I was talking with her I asked if the new water tanks were in. My landlord asked why I was asking and I told her of the neighbours plight. BAD MOVE! This is when I learned to keep my nose out of everyone elses business.

So the landlord flies over and then there was a screaming match between the neighbour and the landlor over the hot water. Turns out she did have hot water and was several hundred dollars short on the rent.

Somehow my name came up and my neighbour started to blame me for all the issues she had been having, calling me every name in the book. I didn't understand where she was coming from - all I did was ask about the tanks (we all got a new one.

Then....I find out she's on crack and deals it too (among other things). This explained the reaction...but I still had to live next to here and our doors are side by side.

I had a choice to make....

Instead of complaining all the time, constantly calling the landlord or calling the cops (no first hand proof - just stuff I heard through the wall...old building), I decided that I would be a blessing instead of a curse.

So I was nice to them, I waved as I drove by, I bought their little girl some french fries, I cleaned up their mess (they would throw mail on the front yard if they didn't want it - the front yard is mine), I NEVER spoke ill of them and always kept their best interests in mind.

My mother thought I was one understood why I was doing this, since they had vandlized out door among a host of other arrestable offenses. I spoke out loud that I blessed them, I blessed their children, I blessed them in all that they did...

And you know what?

They moved! I didn't have to force anything, I didn't stoop to their level, and I have great favour with the landlord as well! I also overcame my own fear of agression and attack - and that in itself was worth it all!

So when you're in a situation that makes you want to "beat someone up" or :spew off at the mouth", remember that blessing people will make you look good, feel good and earn you great respect!


GT Bulmer
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Jun 24th 2011 at 19:29 PM

Hi, Melissa: Thanks for the awesome example of good will and inspirational character. Few of us would have been able to respond in such an admirable way.

Your attitude and response is exactly what this world needs more of. Unfortunately, our society has developed into more of a confrontational one where peace, tolerance and concern for our neighbours has all but been tossed out the window.

Thank you for showing us that there is a better way.

GT :-)

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Jun 25th 2011 at 13:06 PM
Greetings Melissa How you doing? Thank You for sharing this post, GREAT!. Your Attitude can achieve many GREAT things in your life. While reading this post I started out saying Oh No, but then SMILED and said GREAT ATTITUDE about this situation and just think, it turned out for the GOOD. I do worry about the children following with their mom. Come Back Again and share with us.

*But others of us tend to forget. Our hearts are good; it's just that our memories are bad. We forget how significant one touch can be. There's great power in a positive touch...

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Mar 8th 2019 at 4:38 AM
Greeting Melissa, Well, I guess, it is a good platform to express openly. All the best to your future.

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