Betrayal and love, seeking a way out
[Image] "Dear. Dr Masini, I do not know if my case is a 'normal' or unique, I explain. 10 months ago my wife betrayed me with a single connection, and apparently there has been sleeping. Here are my problems start from here. From that day I discovered that all my thoughts are only on that story, I can not believe in full, I was ill-treated for months with questions about what he did, about what she felt until they are exhausted, as if to try at all costs a clue then ritorcerlo against her. We live together for 10 years and have been together for 17, had just 18years when we got together, half of my life I spent with her and if we both having to be separated, not accept, everything they are still prevails a in the other. I know you had a nice burst of emotion, the other could be the love of his life if I had not existed, but she wrote in a letter that already had his love and the other was the person wrong for her even if she had been able to involve so much. This letter was not addressed to me were his thoughts hidden addressed to him but never delivered well in her office safe. Now I do find it hard to get out of this situation I'm afraid you've seen something that I can never give it now because we talk about emotions and love, that she knows it, knows that all this has already received from me in the past. I am also aware of why the betrayal, we talked about it for days, we gutted the problem thoroughly, the central issue was the strong attachment to me for the loss of his father due to divorce when we were already together save my marriage today, and my selfishness that in some periods have kept away, the fact that now she needs to walk by herself that perhaps it was a betrayal to serve the grievances accumulated over the years ... but even this is not selfish, you can not beat using the same means? All this reasoning is not enough for me, my head is constantly striving to think of her with him, what he thinks any time, and I know that if I continue to lose it. She connects to the power of things he sees even if not every day, and then I wonder, can pass a strong involvement so even if happened months ago, but we never stopped talking about it, actually I never stopped talking about it , see also continuandosi doing a normal life office? Can leave everything to a level of exchange of jokes and just or not, it will happen that will create parallel stories, where you will not want to miss his family but at the same time want to experience yourself those emotions? So there's a way out or not? What sense would it make if she were still very much involved to stay close to me for 10 solid months, I now am the person most unlovable of land full of morbid doubt, discouragement and bad mood? Thank you in advance for your willingness. " A.