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Change your mind, Change your Life

Dec 27th 2010 at 5:31 AM

What am I doing here?

I took me years to figure out why I was where I was in life. I promise I did not choose to take the hard road. I am pretty sure none of us do.  At the same time if everything came easy wouldn’t we just be spoiled? There wouldn’t be any sense of accomplishment.  Why do some people seem to get by why others seem to struggle? Here are some of the answers I get the most when I ask this question.  Because that’s why.  Life just happens. Shit happens ( Thats my favorite).  This really surprised me that Most people don’t realize that they have more control over the outcome of their own lives.  Our thoughts and the things we choose to dwell on mentally completely control on how we get along in life. It gets easier for me to see how so many people get stuck in a rut because they just don’t know how to change their minds.

What was I thinking!

Our thoughts are where everything begins. “What a man thinks so he is” I used to think “this is crazy” if changing my life is as simple as thinking it better why don’t I just do it. Why don’t more people just start thinking rainbows and gum drops if that’s all they have to do is Think Better. The biggest reasons I could come up with were 1. It does sound too easy to make sense and 2. There is no instant gratification in this. We as people tend to believe solely on what is physically present to us right here and now. We don’t take in to account on the time it took us to get where we are. We don’t take into account   the events that took place to lead us to where we are at in our lives so we dwell on what we see as real and wonder why it is so hard to change. Truth is it is hard to change. Everything we think and do becomes natural or habitual so it does take time and effort to learn to do this differently.  Just like everything else you may do in life you have to choose what you want then follow the process to get there. There is no instant gratification or overnight cure.  It took time to get you to your present it will take time to get you to your future. For years I was on a destructive path. I really never thought much about what I was doing but eventually I knew I wanted to change so I had to make that choice, change or stay the same. I tried drugs for the first time in my life when I was only 9 years old. Twenty years later I would say to myself “What was I thinking”. As a 9 year old you really don’t have that much control over what goes on in your mind. As children, we are so influenced by our surroundings that we just don’t know any better.  This is where negative thoughts usually take root and can eventually take over.

The Devil made me do it

All of us where born innocent. Everything in between being born and our present has made us who we are. I unfortunately at a young age had a lot of negative influences. I had a father who was extremely abusive. On the other hand I had a mother who was a saint and did everything to protect me from this. I hate to say the bad outweighed the good, which I really can’t because I am still here, but the bad I was exposed to did lead me astray for some time. At a very young age I was constantly told I was stupid or no good. This is probably why I started down the stupid and no good path. We can’t always blame ourselves for the things that happen to us in our lives but we can control the way they will affect us long term.  Deal with a problem then let it go. Focus on a better, prosperous future. If you don’t deal with it, you will dwell on it and it will fester like a sore for the rest of your life. I think it’s easier for us to blame things for our problems then to actually take responsibility for them and straighten ourselves out. O.k. sure I was abused as a child that was not my fault but it’s my fault if I continue to let that control my mind and my life. No matter how bad or how hard it is, I had to choose to forgive and focus on my future and a better life. One of the best things my mother ever did for me was plant God in my life as a child. That was the BIGGEST positive in my life and the reason I know I am still here. I can reflect back on all the years of my life, even some of the worst moments and I can always remember praying. No matter how bad or how Low I got I did have a positive for me to focus on. He never left me, never judged me but man did he change me. He saved me. He helped me save myself. He helped me see if I just change my mind, I could change my life. It changed my heart in the process. Anyone can do this you just have to choose. “I call heaven and earth to witness this day against you that I have set before you LIFE and DEATH, The BLESSINGS and the CURSES; therefore choose LIFE that you and your descendants may live.” Deuteronomy 30:19

This journey called life

You know what else God did? He took everything negative I went through in my life and made it positive for me now.  Honestly this may sound crazy sometimes I am glad I went through the things I went through in my life. In the moments I may have been going crazy but everything I went through helped make me who I am today. I am a strong, loving, confident and caring husband. I am a good father with a beautiful little girl. I constanly tell her she's beautiful, brilliant,strong and that she's loved. I am a very gateful human being who is so passionate about people that I have dedicated my life to helping anyone. I can also look back now and say you know what, I made it this far. My journey has just begun. That's the coolest thing I have learned.  Life IS a journey. Your destination,your situation Good,bad or ugly it is your Choice to think about what you want and to get it.

" No dear brothers and sisters I am still not all I should be,but I am focusing all my energies on this one thing; Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,I strain to reach the end of the race and receive the prize which God,through Christ Jesus,is calling us up to heaven" Philipians 3:13-14

And so it has begun...

My past did not break me, I broke it and came out even better then I was. Through all my past pains and hardships this was my blessing.  In the end WE CAN CHOOSE but you have to BELIEVE as well.  Either way you’re going to do both. You can choose to be miserable and believe things can’t change or choose to be better and believe things will change. This does take time and won’t be easy but every time you choose to think yourself into a better situation is a step towards a better life for you. This is not something I don’t just think any more, this is something I live and I know.  I still have people asking me "So what does all this have to do with marketing" Well everything you do in life begins with you. Healthy minds lead to a healthy life.  Take care and God Bless I will be thinking about you.

 

 

To your success and God Bless,

Bradly G

www.goherbalife.com/bgardner

Here are some excellent books to read that help change your mind;

The power of Positive thinking- Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

Battlefield of the mind- Joyce Meyer

Power for living- Jamie Buckingham

 

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May 30th 2013 at 8:50 PM by netpreneur
Thanks Bradly. Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz is another good resource.
   

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