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A Woman Can Have The Wedding Of Her Dreams With a Little Planning

Feb 22nd 2013 at 4:51 AM

A Wedding Is The Most Important Day in a Girl’s Life

Top Pr Marriage Investigators Mumbai

Dressed For the Occasion

Before the middle of the last century, little girls grew up creating needlework to fill hope chests, being gifted with fine furniture in anticipation of the homes they would one day manage, and looking forward to shopping for a trousseau in the months before their weddings. In those pre-economic liberalization days, marriage was the best career choice available to a woman. She should go to college and get an education, but the truth was that women went to college in those days because that increased her chances of marry into a wealthy family. Her education would be used to make her a better conversationalist and life partner for her professional husband, a better help-mate.

Her career would always center on home management and rearing children, and that’s what she was brought up to do. A woman went from living with her parents to living in her in-laws home after her wedding, and from then on she was best known as Mrs. Somebody. Through all this, her big day, her one day to be a princess, came on the occasion of her wedding. It was the day she looked forward to all her life and the day she spent the rest of her life looking back on. The only thing that might possibly outshine it would come about 20 years later when she planned her daughter’s wedding. These days, we have all opted for careers and independence.

We are free thinkers, we have our own homes complete with mortgage, our own retirement accounts, and our own credit cards. We live on our own and become quite successful before we entertain the idea of marriage and children. Times change. So with all this independence, what has become of the extravagance, the white dress or the bridal saree, the rituals, the wedding celebrations, the mini-fortunes spent on one day that was the culmination of a dream and signaled the beginning of life as an adult woman? One might assume we are less romantic than our predecessors, less inclined to indulge in the almost exclusively feminine excitement of a big wedding.

Managing Weddings Are Still Highly Stressful Events

Actually, the fact is, we spend more, stress more, and our weddings these days are more opulent than our parents, grandparents, and even the great Maharanis of yore ever dreamed possible. Maybe we do it because now we can afford it. Maybe it’s a chance, in the midst of a life that consists of corporate sameness and ambition in the world of business, to just be that princess for a day that we still read about in the pages of glossy magazines. Maybe it’s a chance to show off our project management skills rather than all those almost forgotten homemaking skills our ancestors were so proud of.

Nowadays, instead of working to create the hope chest and dreaming of knights in shining armor, while planning careers as veterinarians or astronauts, girls between the ages of 3 and 10 focus on Barbie dolls and Disney fairy tales. They have pink bedrooms and, if not glass slippers, then surely at least one pair of acrylic ones. We’re still focused on the princess life, and the culmination of that is the fairy tale perfect wedding when we walk down the aisle to be joined to the man of our dreams.  It is appropriate that we indulge that little girl dream and give ourselves one special day when we are the absolute center of attention, so go ahead and do it exactly as you want (or at least as close to what you want as you can reasonably, or even somewhat unreasonably, afford) without pangs of guilt or remorse over the cost.

You Can Have The Wedding You Want

Let’s also keep it in perspective. You don’t have to actually be a princess to spend one day living the life. You can be a nurse from Delhi, a college student in Mumbai, a journalist in Chennai, or a secretary from Bangalore; your wedding can be very formal with rituals, ceremonies followed by a reception or in a moving ‘Palace on wheels‘ train, or in a 200-year-old cathedral, or you can do it on

an exotic beach and barefoot. No matter the style, place, and level of formality, you can give yourself that one day of being the princess you have always dreamed of being. You can do it without doubling your current debt load or asking your parents to take out a loan; you can do it with style and grace and beauty. Or you can go for broke, even take out a second loan yourself, and pull out all the stops for a blast that rivals any movie star’s castle wedding or the ones sponsored by the reality shows on TV — and still do it with style and grace and beauty.

You can do it any way you want and at any level of expense. All you need is to get organized and start planning. Planning for a wedding is essential. Too often I have seen that even corporate executives with an MBA fail to follow the ‘methodical planning‘ approach when it comes to their own weddings even though they may excel in managing complex projects at their workplace. A wedding is no less than a complex project and execution and operational abilities are paramount.

Here’s a tip – Go to the local bookstore and buy a nice ‘wedding planning book’ which will go a long way in ensuring that the one big day of your life goes smoothly and without any hiccups. If you have an Ipad and like me do most of the reading on tablets, then go ahead to the amazon store where you will be literally spoilt for choice on ‘wedding planning’ ebooks to purchase, save on your tablet and read.

Be Very Careful of the Facts

It is an all too common fact that the prince charming of your dreams may not turn out to be a prince charming after all and may just be a loser out to live on your income and your inheritance. Lets face it – As women as much as we want a man to And do remember that if you are getting into an arranged marriage or if you have known your to-be husband for only a short while, a pre marriage background check is must. Our company is one of the most trusted and renowned pre matrimonial investigation agency in the business and can give you reliable background information about your future spouse discreetly. Remember that it is your life – you have worked hard for an education and a flying career. Do not risk everything by letting yourself fall into the power of the wrong man! Call up Amit Sen our chief investigator on 072084 17557 for a discreet chat about our services and how we can help you get the lowdown on the man on whom you are willing to hinge your entire life upon!

Tania Verma is the Head of Operations at Alliance One’s Mumbai Head Office. A mechanical engineer by education, she has a wide variety of experience in various fields such as manufacturing, consumer products and services and the Retail Sector. A strong operational person Tania gets the job done however tight the deadlines and however tough and arduous the task. She excels under pressure and maintains excellent relationships with our corporate clients as well as high networth individuals all over India who have used the company’s services in the past and continue to do so.  Having married recently she feels strongly about untruthful people taking advantage of others and has taken a deep and abiding interest in our matrimonial detectives in Mumbai service and leads our able team from the front.

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