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Negative remarks: Are they bothering you? Then read this.
Have you ever heard this? People who are less confident make negative remarks about others. When their own self esteem start questioning them, when they feel insecure, they start blaming others. Reasons may be genuine, or made up. A normal healthy person may not notice this negativity in the other, but an unhealthy minded person notice this, find fault with and start questioning whether they are matter to them or not.
According to WHO, health is defined as," physical, mental, and social wellbeing and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.." So even though a person thinks he has no existing medical condition, he still has to think about his emotional, psychological, and social condition, before he predicts himself as healthy.
When you hear about a negative remark: you can peek in to yourself and see if that is factual, or it is just another mind's creation. If you are sound in mind and body you will take all that with a balance, check it for yourself and correct it if possible, or let it go. realizing that the other person was not quite right there. But if you are unhealthy, when you hear a remark, you show anger, hostility, revenge and all sorts of frustrations, instead of correcting yourself ( if there is reality there), or taking it easy on yourself if that was not truth.
What I am talking here is, either way criticism is very useful in developing a strong personality, a healthy mind / body, and respect in society, if you take it in the right way. Just like medications in right doses are beneficial, negative remarks can help cure the self pride. When criticism bother you, you may have got an overdose of it, or may be you are too immature to handle it, or you just like to retaliate to the source. It all defines the person or personality of the person.
Does that bother the other person? Not really.You spent your time, energy, and emotions on something that is not useful, and made yourself miserable, felt uncomfortable and unworthy in your own eyes.
As social beings, humans are capable of making adjustments, that is true physically and emotionally. So right attitudes, and right thinking about yourself and about others can avoid lot of miseries. Stop believing in your perceptions, but search for truth or reality. Stop judging others based on your perceptions, but look what majority think about that person (or incident). Negative remarks when start pricking you from everywhere, look in to yourself and make an adjustment, rather I would say a change, and feel happy about it, instead of feeling worthless or small.
This is not for a small percent of the society, but majority of men, women even kids are affected by what we call" ego clash". Accepting advises and making corrections are hard because of the fear of failure. But the great souls whenever they lived made it possible by making themselves humble. Water flows from high level to low level, the reservoir is supposed to be in a lower level than the acual flow, to make it effective. So if you want to receive you want to make yourself available, have an appetite, and also need to know that you are lacking.
So by accepting counsel, and realizing mistakes, we can strive to achieve perfection, eventhough we know it is hard in this imperfect system of things.
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