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Jesse Clayton | VTMadePro

Is My Wallet Your Friend Or Me?

Aug 17th 2010 at 10:14 PM

It’s funny. The more social networking I do, the more I run into messages that don’t have much social merit.

Sorry but “Hey, I am following you, check out my new product at …” doesn’t do a whole lot for me. Not really going to want to jump over and follow what you are doing. Not really going to visit the site, either, if for no other reason but for the principle of not going. Well, I mean, maybe the “Increase the size of your…. wallet“… Nah. Even that one has gotten old.

But, to be honest, I don’t think they are really interested much in me or what I have to say. I am starting to get the feeling that they are trying to sell me something. I know, call me paranoid.

What happened to etiquette? The internet used to be about data and finding information. It used to be impersonal. Now social  media is queen (or king), but some people just don’t seem to get it and don’t infuse their personality, or any professionalism, for that matter.

I have done some sales in my life and, well, call me crazy (as well as paranoid), but I have always done better by being personable. Trying to shove a sale down a prospect’s throat is not usually so very successful. Let them come to you. Entice them.

So, if you want both me AND my money, then it’s fine. I can live with that. Follow me. Friend me. Even send ME money (It could happen, right?) Ask if I have any projects going on. But here’s a tip; Rather than chasing me down with your offers, show interest first. Let me come to you.

If what you have to say is relevant, important, maybe evening enlightening, I will find your sales pitch on your page, not in my inbox.

I look forward to those insightful comments.

Please to comment
Oct 12th 2010 at 6:27 AM by HealthyGuy
Great article. And I do want to ask how are your projects going. Do You have one in particular that you have been involved with for a while and are still thrilled to be involved? Just wanted to know. To Your Great Success and Health Dr. Lee
Aug 26th 2010 at 12:42 PM by doitsimple
Hi Jesse, Good points you make. You're on your way to being a very good online marketer. I never sell on social networks. I give away stuff for free, or post content that can be useful for readers. I think if you shorten your article title it would do better, something like "Is My Wallet Your Friend?". Your article has the potential of spinning off at least 4 more articles. You might want to go read another of my articles here: By the way I notice we have the same first name. In my mother tongue, which is Spanish, this is call (tocallos) it's slang Spanish "having the same first name" Thanks for reading my article.
Aug 19th 2010 at 11:55 AM by VTMadePro
Indeed. How do you get your message out there so that it stands out from all the rest? That is the question we all try to answer daily. Thanks for commenting!
Aug 18th 2010 at 8:30 AM by blackfolder1
I totally agree- however, we are all trying to sell something, right? And whenever you have hundreds of followers and are following hundreds, it is very hard to keep up with more than just a few on a really personal basis. However, if you eventually want to make a sale, this is pretty much what you have to do. Just one of the many paradoxes (?) of internet marketing!

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