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Judy Helm Wright, of Missoula, Montana is a wise woman with a global message. As an author of over 20 books on Amazon, she writes about Responsibility, Respect & Resiliency.

Judy is a popular motivational speaker and has worked all over the world with families and groups just like yours.

You will find her warm, witty and wise as she guides and mentors others to be their best self.
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15 Ways to Help Kids Like Themselves

Aug 26th 2010 at 2:39 PM
15 Ways to Help Kids Like Themselves By Judy H. Wright Platinum Quality Author Judy H. Wright
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Judy is a parent educator, family relationship coach, and personal historian who has written more than 20 books, hundreds of articles and speaks internationally on ...  

1. Tell me something you like about yourself? Help your child to focus on her many strengths.

2. Reinforce the positives. Give praise, recognition, a special privilege or increased
responsibility for a job well done.

3. Define limits and rules clearly. A family council is an excellent place to discuss, explain
and get a sense of ownership to the rules. Discuss what consequences will follow if the
rules are not followed. Don't have a lot of rules, maybe four or five, but be consistent at
following them.

4. Give your children responsibility to make the house a home. Everyone in the family
should be responsible for some household chores daily. Responsibility makes them feel
valued and part of the team.

5. Don't re-do their jobs. If you expect perfection, it is too easy for them to quit trying or
else hope that you will step in and "save them" when it gets difficult.

6. Laugh at their jokes and listen attentively when they are talking to you. Being fully
present when you are with your child is the only quality time there is.

7. If they don't fit in, teach them basic social skills. There are a number of behaviors that
can be learned to help the "left out" child to fit into the group more easily.

8. Show them that what they do is important to you. Talk to them about activities and
interests. Help them to find a hobby or interest that they excel at. Go to their games,
presentations and activities.

9. Help them to set goals. Teach them to break each long-range goal into manageable bites. It is important to succeed at something ever day. Acknowledge your own successes so
they can be more aware of progress they are making.

10. Don't punish them for telling the truth. Discuss problems without placing blame or
attacking the child's character. Worry less about "who did this?" and more about
"Let's get this mess cleaned up." If a child knows he has made a bad choice but doesn't
feel attacked, he will feel more secure in trying to find solutions.

11. Create opportunities to give service and to develop tolerance for others with different
values and backgrounds. These experiences can help a child to see himself in reference to
the rest of the world and to be more understanding of the needs of others.

12. Give them opportunities to make decisions. Help them to see that each decision has
pros and cons and may have consequences for themselves and others. If they want to do
something that is clearly harmful, explain why you cannot allow them to act on it.

13. Teach them to deal with money and time wisely. When children are organized and
responsible for their homework and allowance, it breeds self-assurance and personal

14. Be a good role model. Let your children know that you feel good about yourself, but also
teach them by example that mistakes aren't final but learning experiences.

15. Start and end each day on a positive and loving note. Give lots of hugs, kisses and high
fives. Let them know on a consistent basis that your love is unconditional and that you are
proud of them as a member of the family. You may occasionally be disappointed in their
actions or choices, but will always be available for support.

© Judy H. Wright, Author, Speaker and Life Educator

This article was written by Judy Wright, parent educator and author. Feel free to use it in your newsletter or publication, but please give full credit to the author and mention the contact information of, 406-549-9813.

Please to comment
Mar 20th 2011 at 9:02 PM by carolw44
good and positive article
Nov 9th 2010 at 7:04 AM by stephaniebeth
What rules did you have in your household? I'm not a control freak or anything, (well maybe a little...) but I don't think five rules is enough...
Sep 10th 2010 at 10:09 AM by sandyc30
With having a Autistic child I have learned positive reinforcement is everything. I tell him I thank God for him every day. And he smiles. We start the day with a hug and end the day with a hugs and alot in between..
Aug 26th 2010 at 2:47 PM by yhbecpublisher
Wow from the look of this article I was a great mother to my kids. I often got strange looks as we shared an imaginary picnic on a bus. And I think I still follow this list in my daily interactions with others. Uplifting them in ways I had wished for as a child. Brilliant again Aunty Judy you are just what my inner child has been needing to read. Thank you!

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