Follow these five expert tips to make more time for intimacy with your partner.
By Jessica Padykula
Finding time for sex
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It's not always easy to find time for sex. A full day at work combined with endless social obligations and a to-do list that never seems to allow for downtime can mean the bedroom becomes a sleep-only zone. But putting your sex life first is easier than you think.
We asked Tami Kulbatski, psychologist and co-author of 10 Commandments for Couples (Zeig, Tucker and Theisen, 2011), for advice on how to put sex at the top of your priority list this year. "When couples don't prioritize loving in a sexual way, intimacy finds its way to the bottom of the to-do list," she explains. "And we all know that when we don't use it, we lose it." http://www.purevolume.com/JasmineJesper/posts/5758776/Amanda+Leto+Review+-+How+do+fibroids+affect+the+uterus+during+pregnancy%3F
1. Schedule intimacy
Sure, it sounds unromantic, but one of the best ways to make sex a priority is to schedule it. "As a psychologist that works with many couples, I cannot stress enough the importance of scheduling sex into a busy lifestyle," Kulbatski says. Surprisingly, when it comes to the element in people's lives that is most strongly correlated with happiness -- healthy, loving relationships with their significant others -- many people overlook the importance of scheduling, she explains. "So, just like you program your iPhone's alarm to go off the morning your dry cleaning is ready for pickup, schedule a reminder for sex with your partner."
2. Avoid overscheduling your life
The feeling that there just isn't enough time in the day is a common sentiment among busy people, and it's one of the most common excuses couples give for lack of intimacy in their relationships, Kulbatski says. "Although it is true that children benefit from extra-curricular activities, and that business meetings need to be attended, when lives get overscheduled, intimacy gets neglected," she explains.
Rather than let your love life suffer, commit to simplifying your life by saying "no" to a social engagement every now and again or giving yourself a break from certain obligations. "You can be instrumental in creating that elusive time for intimacy."