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5 ways to bring the heat back into your sex life

Feb 27th 2014 at 9:15 PM

Follow our expert advice to give your sex life a boost this winter.

By Jessica Padykula
Bring excitement back into your sex life   

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Every couple experiences ups and downs when it comes to sex, and a slump isn't always cause for alarm.

There are many reasons -- from busy schedules to stress overload -- for relationships to experience periods of decreased intimacy. But if there are no underlying issues to deal with and you're just in the midst of a dry spell, there are some simple ways to turn things around.

We turned to Steven Craig, a clinical psychologist and author of The Six Husbands Every Wife Should Have (Simon and Schuster, 2012), to get his advice on how to improve your sex life. He stresses that chronic intimacy issues are almost always an indication of bigger or more serious problems.

"If the couple doesn't address the larger issues in their relationship, they will likely just revisit their problems again," he explains. "However, there are a few ways to get things revved up."

1. Make time for sex
If sex has been falling by the wayside lately, the best thing you can do is slot it into your schedule. You might have a myriad of unfinished tasks currently on your to-do list, but if you don't make time for sex, it won't happen.

"Set specific times aside for intimacy and let nothing remove it from the schedule," Craig advises. "Unfortunately, there are times when we can't be spontaneous, so we have to put important things like this on a schedule. If this seems unnatural or unromantic, get over it," he says. Not everything can work out exactly as you would like it to (or how it seems to in the movies). By getting sex on your schedule, you will be more likely to find a way to make it happen.

2. Build anticipation
Don't discount the power of building anticipation when it comes to making improvements in your sex life. Craig suggests taking turns planning a night devoted to the other person, then creating excitement around what's to come.

"Devote separate nights to focusing on a different partner's needs, and then talk to each other during the day about your plans for the other," he says. The idea is to elevate the experience and turn it into something special. But be careful, this exercise is not a licence to be lewd or rude, the psychologist warns. It should be romantic and fun.

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