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The Dating Game: Different After Divorce
Dating after divorce brings new challenges and new opportunities.
Dating is one of those social cultural phenomena that changes substantially from year to year. The methods and processes whereby two people meet, interact, and engage in a relationship are forever evolving. But regardless of the methodology, some things remain the same. It’s still and always nerve-racking, intimidating, and full of excitement.
Dating after divorce encompasses all those things and more. It adds on a layer of insecurity, age, and baggage that you didn’t have to deal with the last time you fought this good fight. Today we have the advantage, or disadvantage, of the internet as well. You’ll find that it’s far easier to meet people than it used to be, but often harder to meet people of quality that share your interests.
The newly divorced will likely find that online dating sites make it easy to narrow the field and pick out the people that you’re interested in dating. Shop around and find the site that works best for you and is tailored to what you’re looking for. Or if you’re not into the online process, find a bar or hangout that you’re comfortable in and start networking.
Take your time. There’s no rush, and the best things come to those who wait and seek. Don’t settle for less than what you deserve, and don’t try to be something you’re not just to settle into a relationship. Make sure you’ve given yourself ample opportunity to get over your divorce before you dive into another commitment.
But do get out there. Dating a little will help you come to terms with your new life. It will give you new perspectives and broaden your horizons. And it’s fun. If you’re not having fun, then you’re not doing it right. You should be enjoying time with new people in new places creating new memories. Your divorce was hard, and it took a lot out of you. Use this time and this chance to build yourself back up. Find new interests, take advantage of this chance at new lifestyles, and build new and better circles of people around you.
Don’t allow your insecurities to stop you. You’re not the same person that you were when you got married; you’ve learned a lot since then. Take that new knowledge on the court with you, and own it. The right person will respect and admire it.
Dating after divorce is hard, but it should be fun. It should be one of the most exciting times of your life. Don’t waste it. If you’re seeking a divorce lawyer in Newport Beach, check out this website.
Paul advises people on divorce and family law matters. You can find his thoughts at https://storify.com/familylawblog
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