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How to Avoid Depression After a Divorce
Divorce. It’s such a final word and can signal the end of hopes and dreams. It changes everything, for better or for worse. Because of the great turmoil it can cause, it is not unusual to go through a period of depression. The key is to pull yourself out of that feeling before you allow it to settle in and start causing both emotional and physical harm.
To overcome feelings of depression, you first need to realize what is causing them. Yes the divorce is the general reason, but underlying the big picture are the little things you are losing. Take some time to sit down and think about what you are truly sad about. Write a letterto say goodbye to all that you feel you are losing. It may say something like, “Goodbye to my dream of spoiling our grandchildren together” or “Goodbye to financial security.” When you see in writing the reasons you are grieving, it can be easier to let them go.
Realize that this is not the end, but a new beginning. Easier said than done, of course, but it is time to start looking ahead. You may need to start a new hobby or perhaps a new job if you have been a stay-at-home parent. Learning a new skill can keep your mind on something positive, and you can see yourself succeeding.
It’s also important to start making plans. Even if you have never been a big planner, now is an excellent time to start. Write down when you will do everything: pick up the kids from school, go grocery shopping, start reading a new book. As you plan, you will see your new life laid out before you and realize that you have a future.
As you look ahead, ask yourself what you see on the horizon. You can write another letter to yourself; this one can tell you what you want to say hello to in the next year. Where do you want your life to be? What expectations do you have for yourself? It can be hard to let old dreams go, but as you write down new goals, you can see that new ones can be just as powerful.
Divorce is considered the second most stressful event a person can experience in life, with only the death of a spouse measured as worse. Instead of allowing yourself to fall into the depths of sadness, and finding it difficult to climb back out, start seeing a future. To learn more about dealing with legal separation in La Quinta, please visit this website.
Paul advises people on divorce and family law matters. You can find his thoughts at family law blog on Tumblr.