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How Divorce Affects Your Children

Apr 3rd 2015 at 1:38 AM

When you decide that you no longer want to be married due to serious problems in the marriage that are not fixable, you may worry that getting a divorce will have a negative impact on your children. While the kids may take it hard at the beginning, it is better to end an unhappy relationship than to stay in the marriage for the children and continue fighting and arguing in front of them. After all, the children deserve to live an environment where they feel safe and happy. They should not be afraid to live in their own home because their parents do not get along.

Some children begin to act out when their parents decide to divorce. They may begin to show a rebellious side to them that they never had before, but this is considered quite normal. A child who acts out may not know how to cope with what they are feeling and they may also blame themselves for the divorce in some way, even though it is not their fault at all. When a child feels this way, it is best to bring him or her to family counseling. Each of your kids will be able to express how they feel and then you can have your say while providing plenty of reassurance that the divorce was not caused by them.

If you notice that one or more of your children seems a bit depressed because of these changes that are happening, make sure to sit down and talk with each child one-on-one too. Give all of your children as much attention as you can. Keep them busy with fun activities, such as a game of soccer outdoors or a trip to the movies to see a new film. During this time in their lives, you have to show them that you are still a family despite the divorce.

It is also better if you can get along with your ex, especially when you are communicating in front of the kids. The two of you may want nothing to do with one another when it comes to a romantic relationship. However, acting civil may make your children feel less stressed out about the divorce. They will come to realize that the two of you have grown apart, but can still get along for the most part when it involves the children.

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Author Bio:-

Paul advises people on divorce and family law matters. You can find his thoughts at

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