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Child Custody Arrangements and What’s Best For You
Determining child custody arrangements may be one of the hardest decisions of your life. It will almost certainly be a point of contention in the ending of your relationship with the other parent. Even if you can agree on what seems best in theory for your children, putting that into practice efficiently and effectively is often very hard to do.
When you and your partner are ready to discuss child custody, be sure that you’re both fully committed to doing what is best for the children, rather than what is best for you. But do keep in mind that happy parents make happy children. Don’t allow your co-parenting partner to put more on you than is acceptable for you. Above all, make sure that your kids will be well-cared-for, happy, and loved. The primary aim in co-parenting is to work together to do the best job possible raising your children.
There are as many options for child custody as there are single parents. Many choose to share custody jointly and equally, as they feel that equal time with their children is best for the children and easiest on both adults. If that’s not possible or advisable in your particular circumstance, then work out how often and when one parent should see them, and discuss it as rationally as possible. Your solution can and should be tailored to your circumstances. The best scenario for another family will not necessarily be the best scenario for yours.
If rational discussion is not possible or not netting results, then you may need to seek professional assistance. A lawyer can help you determine what the judicial process in your state entails in regards to child custody. In many states, mediation sans lawyers is required before you can go to court. Don’t delay in finding out what is needed; if you are put in the position of needing to take advantage of the court system, you’ll find that it moves slowly, much more slowly than you’d prefer.
In addition to child custody, you’ll need to know the local requirements for child support and child support modifications. Your co-parenting partner may not be interested in helping you account for the expenses involved in raising your children, but depending on your custody arrangement, they may not have a choice. Most states use a calculation based on income, time the children spend with each parent, and current assets to determine applicable child support requirements. That amount is never written in stone and can be altered to suit as time passes. For assistance with child support modifications in Irvine, visit this website.
Paul advises people on divorce and family law matters. You can find his thoughts at Livejournal blog.
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